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EASY Long-Hair Style – Elegant Cascade

It is yet another hot day here in the Pacific Northwest.

OK, hot for us.  We moss-covered folks are just NOT used to 80 plus degree weather… we… glisten (as they say in the south)!!

Another day for yet another EASY way to get my waist-length, naturally curly hair off of my back.  Can you tell I like easy styles? Using Flexi-clips has allows me MUCH more variety in hair styles all while being so easy to do!  The Flexi-clips are also much more comfortable than barrettes or the ugly plastic claw.

This one comes with a tutorial!!  It is my very first  tutorial.  I would love your feedback on this.  You can see a pictorial only tutorial on my Pinterest Hair Styles board.  You can follow me on Pinterest for more of these kinds of pictorial tutorials.  I am planning other Pinterest only surprises… :-)  You won’t want to miss them!

Elegant Cascade Hair Style

Items you will need: one barrette, one Flexi-clip (I used a medium Celtic Cross)

1. I start with my hair all down.  This is recently washed, scrunched up with some products to help keep down the frizzies, and it is mostly dry.

     2. Put your hair into a half-up, secured with a barrette.

3.  Gather your hair into a ponytail and hold in right hand.  Place your left hand against the back of your head with the pinkie just under the barrette.  Pull the ponytail up while sliding your hand along the pony until it is just above the barrette.

Fold the ponytail so there is a ‘bulb’ of hair about 2 inches in length(it can be longer or shorter) above the barrette.  You may have to adjust the size Flexi-clip you use so the folded ponytail won’t slip out.

4.  Remove your left hand from under the raised ponytail and hold onto the folded ‘bulb’ of hair just above the barrette.  While continuing to hold the folded ponytail, place the decorative part of the Flexi-clip onto the folded ponytail and slide the attached pin underneath and above the barrette.  Slide the pin into the Flexi-clip.

Have a great week and keep cool with your hair up!

Blessings, ~Aunt Mae (aka ~Mrs. R)

I am a Lilla Rose consultant and links go directly to my website where you can purchase this clip as well as other clips and hair jewelry.

Other posts that may be of interest to you:

So EASY to Style my Hair With Style!

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June 6th – A Momentous Day

Today is a momentous day.

Yes, back in 1944 was the invasion of Normandy, France by the allied troops.  It is referred to as ‘D-Day’.

43 years later there was another momentous day on June 6th.

It was the day of my marriage to The Patriarch.  Yes, that makes today our 25th Wedding Anniversary!  I guess you could say this is also… W-Day.

I ran across this post today – To Love Honor and Vacuum.  She lists some good tips for keeping your husband the man of your dreams, even though there is now much water under the bridge!

I will list her headings and add my own comments below that list.

1) Don’t Compare Him, 2) Find Things to Praise Him For, 3) Don’t Try to Tame Him, 4) Embrace a Healthy S*x Life.

1) Whew!  I wouldn’t want him to compare me to another woman, especially a fake one from the movies or a magazine!  This is the man you chose to marry, the man you ‘fell in love with’, enjoyed talking with and spent hours getting yourself ready for.  Learn to love him for who he is!  If he is adoring you above all else, worshiping the ground you walk on, etc  then his priorities are wrong.  You should come after his love for the Lord, not before.  That other idea is a false humanistic view of love.

Now this is the commandment—the statutes and the rules—that the Lord your God commanded me to teach you, that you may do them in the land to which you are going over, to possess it, that you may fear the Lord your God, you and your son and your son’s son, by keeping all his statutes and his commandments, which I command you, all the days of your life, and that your days may be long. Hear therefore, O Israel, and be careful to do them, that it may go well with you, and that you may multiply greatly, as the Lord, the God of your fathers, has promised you, in a land flowing with milk and honey.

“Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.  Deuteronomy 6:1 – 5

And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’

Mark 12:30

My dear husband goes to work every day, working hard to provide for us.  He is out slaying his dragons, taking dominion over his part of the world.  Currently his work environment is Christian-hostile, anti-intellectual and physically and spiritually draining.  My desire is for him to “want” to come home every day.  I sure don’t want to do, say or behave in a way that would drive him away!

2) When I have my priorities in their proper places it is much easier for me to take my eyes off of what I perceive as my needs and focus on what his needs are.  I do not do this as well as I would like, but with the Lord’s help I am improving one day at a time.

I also am careful not to praise him in a way that seems artificial or fake.  That seemed to be a problem in his extended family and in his childhood home the pendulum swung so far the other way that no compliments were given for anything.  I don’t gush with meaningless words but am specific in what I am praising him for.  Sometimes if is an “offhand” kind of comment, like when I told him I love the way he leads our family devotions.  It was part of a larger conversation and fit in context.  I wasn’t “looking for something to compliment him on”, but mentioned something I genuinely appreciate.

I also take what opportunities I can to praise him behind his back.  Years ago as a Creative Memories consultant I attended consultant only crops.  There were a several women who spent lots of time tearing down their husbands.  Some I make sure to remember as examples for what NOT to do!

3) She says “don’t tame him”, but I see this as “Be IN Submission To Him”!  This is the age-old problem between men & women, brought about by our first parents…  Adam & Eve.

It can be so easy for we as women to fool ourselves into thinking we are being submissive when in actuality we are only agreeing with our husbands.  Do not think that I am doing this perfectly, for I am not.  There are still and always will be areas I can improve upon.  But there should be improvement!

If you asked your husband, would he say you are in true biblical submission to him?  Let’s not focus on the anomalies to a healthy biblical relationship.

Here are some questions I ask to test myself:

Has my husband asked me to do something that I have still not gotten done days, weeks or months later?

Am I making my husband’s wishes a priority in my day above what I think I ‘must’ get done today?

Do I talk over my husband?  Do I interrupt my husband?  Do I correct my husband in front of the children or others?

Do the children respect my husband?  If not, than the root problem may lie at my door.

Am I doing or saying anything that would discourage my husband from being the biblical leader of our home?

8 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. 20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. 22 Bondservants, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. 23 Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, 24 knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.

Colossians 3: 8 – 24

4) I have nothing to add here.

I think I told you before that The Patriarch was out of work for 2 months.  Once he got another job it was a number of weeks before we had our first full paycheck.  We were a full 10 and a half weeks without income.  I did not tell my husband that he needed to look for work, I knew he knew that full well.  My saying anything along those lines would be nagging.  He didn’t need THAT from me.  He asked me, as keeper of the accounts, how we fared financially and I gave him an honest answer.  Not making things look bleaker than they were or glossing over any potential difficulties.  I didn’t make any comments like, ‘well we could do that or have that but you aren’t bringing in a paycheck’.  If he decided to not do something, or to do something I made it all work to the best of my ability.  The same went for if we said anything to anyone or not.  He chose ‘not’.  It was well over half way through our ‘tight financial time’ when he thanked me for being supportive!  Once Arrow and I knew he would be leaving for work, we both told him we were glad he got a job but sorry he wouldn’t be home!  We all came to see this time as a blessing in our family.  I will share more on those things in a different post.

I was not always in submission to DH.  I was one who had duped myself into thinking I was, when the truth was I was not in submission.  Once I truly did submit myself to his biblical authority and I was no longer striving for his God-given-position as leader in our family so many needless arguments simply vanished!

I wouldn’t trade that false sense of freedom I once had for the true freedom I now enjoy.  It has been such a blessing!

So does that mean this is… D W Day?!!

Blessings, ~Aunt Mae (aka ~Mrs. R)

Other posts you may be interested in:

LAF Has Returned

Resolution – More Attentive to DH

Resolution – MORE Attentive to DH

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The fourth item on my resolution list is:

#4 More Attentive to my Husband.

The Patriarch is undemanding.  But I KNOW the cluttered house bugs him, though he doesn’t say a lot about it.  I want to get it all ship shape to please him.  He’s been pleased with what I have done so far!!

I need to be more deliberate about looking for more ways to be attentive to him.

One thing I have been trying to do is stop reading on my computer and turn to look at him when he is reading something to me from his computer.  He thought it was important enough to share with me so I should really listen better!  Shame on me for not doing this before.

This was not the resolution I thought I should work on first… apparently the Lord thought otherwise.  This past 25 days I have been given the privilege to demonstrate attentiveness and respect to The Patriarch  in a way I was not expecting.

You see, The Patriarch has been out of work since the 5th of March.

There are many things I could say about our situation but worried, grumbling and unhappy are NOT three of them!  :-D  In fact we have been experiencing ‘the peace the passes all understanding’ from the very beginning of this current circumstance.  Your prayers for our job need would be appreciated.

On one of our walks the other day, both Arrow & I separately and unprompted, told the Patriarch that we have loved having him at home!  I did tell him that having a regular source of income would also be nice, but I will miss him terribly when he has to leave to go to work everyday.

When I made my resolutions list our current jobless situation was no where on the horizon.  The Lord has interesting ways of allowing me to demonstrate my resolution resolve!!

Being without a paycheck for the past four weeks also makes me even more thankful we have been preparedness minded!!  We have plenty of food, toiletries, education materials, entertainment activities, clothing, etc. and I have only had to go out to purchase perishables like milk and lettuce.  We were also able to pay all our bills this month.

We are trusting the Lord to bring about another job or have us start a home business (besides my soap).  There are a few job irons in the fire, but I am not at liberty to share any more than that at this time.

Blessings?  Why yes we have seen some from this extended time of joblessness.

1. The Patriarch’s blood pressure has been going steadily down!  The systolic is down 33 & diastolic is down about 17 from it’s highest reading!!  That’s a very good thing!  We are working at getting it even lower, but at least it is headed in the right direction!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2. We have been able to have daily devotions both morning and evening!  Currently we are using two of Kevin Swanson’s books.  Proverbs in the morning and Genesis in the evenings.

In our Genesis reading for tonight was chapter 20 where Abraham’s wife if taken by Abimelech king of Gerar.  One question at the end was specifically for me, but I suspect that I may not be the only one who is in need of trusting…

Section end on how this passage teaches us to walk with god in faith and obedience:  “God doesn’t instruct wives to submit to their husbands out of blind trust in their husband’s impeccable wisdom.  Not at all!  They should submit to their husbands because they trust in a GOD of infinite wisdom.” – page 98

Family discussion questions:  How can a wife submit to her husband even when it seems like her husband is making some unwise choices?  Is there any point at which she should not obey her husband?

My answer:  I can readily submit to you, cheerfully so, because I know that God will use all the circumstances in our lives for our good.  God can always be trusted, even when the situation may look grim.  I know you did not mean this for our hurt (unlike Joseph’s brothers) but God means this for our good.  the only point where I should not obey you is where you ask me to violate scripture.

3. We are quite well rested!  We have been going to bed early and rising after a full night’s, restful sleep!  Since sleep is the number one thing you can do to begin healing your adrenals, I think we are on our way!  We have eliminated the major stresses, are getting proper sleep, reduced the caffeine to only tea and only in the mornings, have been limiting computer time (we don’t have television), and are getting regular exercise in our walks.  I have also reduced everyone’s sugar intake by using half stevia when and where I can along with de-cluttering the house (a stress factor).

4.  Gives me a chance to work with our preparedness supplies.   Actually cooking with our stored foods on a more regular basis.  As well as giving me the opportunity to be creative with what we have and make do with what’s already there.  One thing I already knew – we need to organize our supplies!!

Off to bed for us…

Blessings, ~Mrs. R (aka Aunt Mae)

Other posts you may be interested in:

My New Year’s Resolutions

Regarding Resolutions

Happy Valentine’s Day

LAF Has  Returnd

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Daily Renewal when Motherhood Feels too Hard

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I don’t know about you… but I have been so tired lately.  Not just a physical tired, but a battle-weary, need a daily bit of encouragement kind of tired.  The soul-weary and emotionally worn out kind of tired.  Though I do know others who are also stay-at-home homeschooling moms, I still feel so ‘alone’ at times.

I was listening to Kevin Swanson’s 2010 Family Economics Series the other day.  In his talk “A Biblical Economy – The Opportunity of Our Century” he states that over 40% of 5 year olds are latch key kids!  And we wonder why the nations children are “growing up” without any decent character traits…?

As one of a small minority of mothers who does stay at home with her child(ren), I am always appreciative when I find something that will give me encouragement in my God-given job of mom.  It is said that a Navy wife is the toughest job in the Navy.  That is so true, to which I can personally attest.  I would also have to say that a biblical, stay-at-home, homeschooling mother is the toughest job in the church.

Of all places… the church (generally speaking) is the last place where we mothers can even find a modicum of encouragement for the role God has ordained for us!  In most instances, the modern, American, evangelical church is our most ardent opposition.

Indeed, all who desire to live a godly life in Christ Jesus

will be persecuted,

2 Timothy 3:12

That is why I am so excited about this new devotional by Kelly Crawford.  In case you don’t remember, Kelly’s home was destroyed in a tornado last April and she had a tiny newborn!

Yet despite these trials Kelly and her family glorified the Lord day in and day out.  I can’t think of another person who would KNOW so intimately the emotional and spiritual weariness of motherhood!!  Can you imagine continuing to love, nurture and school your children without a home?

Here is what is being said about Kelly’s new book:

“When mothers are strong, their children — regardless of the challenges they face — tend to be strong. When they’re resilient and filled with faith, their children are likely to be resilient and filled with faith…The destiny of mankind is in the hands of mothers….” -Neal Maxwell

This book is your comrade in the trenches. It is a life-book, you will want to read over and over, written in small snippets for daily renewal.”

“This eBook is Kelly’s “cup of cold water” to mothers. We all need refreshment and encouragement when the hard days come, and Kelly has provided bite-sized (but meaty and thought-provoking) daily devotionals that urge us to take our calling as mothers seriously but remember at the same time that we are vessels of clay in need of God’s filling. These words are true whether you are the mother of one or the mother of ten! Thank you, Kelly, for sharing your beautiful insights into the calling of motherhood “from the trenches!” -Jennie Chancey

It will be released Monday, 20 February 2012!

Not only will it be available on Monday…

it will only cost $1!!

Though that low price will only hold for one day.

Blessings, Mrs. R (aka Aunt Mae)

I am an affiliate for Generation Cedar.

B-I-G Preparedness/Homesteading Giveaway!!

I have not talked about preparedness for a while.  I am still working on our supplies and a comprehensive inventory is becoming a necessity!  There are still some areas where I could use some help.  That is where THIS post comes in.  I stumbled across this giveaway and immediately thought… wow!  These are some of the very things I need to add to our preparedness supplies!  How timely.

Isn’t that just like the Lord?  Providing when you hadn’t been looking!

The ForgottenWayFarms.com folks and HomesteadDryingRacks.com are teaming up for a great giveaway for preparedness &/or homesteading minded folks and there are 6 different prizes worth $304!

Six Prizes – Six chances to win

1st Grandpa Jakes Campfire Cooker ($139.00 value)

2nd One handcrafted Peddler drying rack (49.00)

3rd Homesteading for Beginners vol. I- II-III ($45.00)

4th Plunger Washer ($29.00)

5th  Erin’s Super Green Drink Mix 1 lb. ($25.00)

6th Erin’s Sick Tea ½ lb. ($17.00)

I am drooling over the Grandpa Jake’s Outdoor Cooker.  I also need the Plunger Washer for my preparedness supplies.  The Green Mix and Tea would also be wonderful as would the DVDs!  Who couldn’t use a really nice drying rack with REAL space for drying things??!!

Hop on over to their blog to check out how YOU can enter a chance to win one of these great items!  Don’t delay… this giveaway ends at midnight on Feb 5th!

FREE e-book from Money Saving Mom!!

Saw this and HAD to let you all know ASAP!!

You can get the above book is free if you order her budget book:

Or other details here: Money Saving Mom

This is free ONLY until January 9th… so don’t delay!

I am still working on my New Year’s Resolutions post… and both of these books are EXACTLY what I NEED!!  I will be ordering the budget book and reading about MAINTAINING my new resolutions while I wait for it to come to my door!!  Oooooo, I am so excited!  Thanks Crystal Paine!!

Blessings, ~Mrs. R (aka Aunt Mae)

Encouragment & Vision for the 21st Century Mother!

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A great new book to help Christian mothers in the honorable job of raising the next generation for Jesus Christ!

Not many of us have any older woman as a Titus 2 mentor.  This book can fill some of that need.

Blessings, ~Mrs. R

Homemaking Link-up!

Homemaking Link-up!

Blessings,   ~Mrs. R

Homemaking Link Up!!

It’s Wednesday and you know what that means?  YES!!  A Homemaking Link Up!

Today I want to encourage you to join me in giving thanks to the Lord in the everyday things of life.  I have recently read Ann Voskamp’s book, One Thousand Gifts and was convicted that I do not offer up enough thanks!  But in starting I can make headway in living fully right where I am.

In the middle of my cluttered home, with an Arrow in training, attempting to get my fledgling soap business “suds-ing along”,  trying to garden when the Lord saw fit to make this year another quite cool spring, and cool summer, and I could go on and on.

Lately, I have been feeling far from the Lord and as though I am spinning my wheels.  I ‘know’ in my head that the Lord has not left me.  He states that clearly in His word.  So that must mean that I have wandered away.  Again.

I let far too many things distract me from the thanks and joy in the small everyday things.  And when I have wandered I do not react to those distractions well.  I have started to yell again.  Oh how I hate it when I yell.   It’s so… belittling and shows a lack of self-control.

So after reading Ann’s book I have determined to start my own list of one thousand gifts.  I want  to be a part of a revolution of thankfulness to God.  Join me won’t you?

Blessings,

~Mrs. R

Homemaking Link Up!!

You may well be asking why in the world I would be linking to a site that is for raising homemakers.  I don’t have a future homemaker but a future homemaker’s leader.

It is simple.  I have gleaned much from this site and I thought many of you would as well!  I am still learning how to be a homemaker, and still have much to still learn.  I can wish my early training was different, but…

If wishes were horses beggars would ride.

So I will get back to my work.  A holy calling that is NOT so easy to implement!  The idea presented today is that a homemaker sits idly around eating bon bons and watching soap operas because her “work” is so quickjly and easily done leaving her with many, many hours of “unproductive” & “unfulfilled” time.

I can not disagree more!  Yes scrubbing a toilet one time is done quickly and easily.  It isn’t the individual tasks that are a homemaker’s sole role.  It is maintaining a neat, clean and orderly home.  And all that BEFORE any children come along.  Once the blessings start arriving (one prays with great regularity!!) then the systems established can be maintained to some degree.  Much of the original ‘system’ will by necessity change due to the needs of the dear children and the new mother.

Many young mother’s think they can continue to “burn the candle at both ends” and deprive themselves of sleep.  But it is imperative for you to protect your adrenals!  You do not want to wind up with severe adrenal fatigue.  Trust me on this one!  Getting plenty of sleep is so important.

Well, all this for a link up.  Hmm, I think I had better go vacuum the house and plan our dinner!  :-)

Blessings,

~Mrs. R